- Have you bought a house?
To be honest, we havent. We have not even looked around yet at all. We dont know where to stay, which location, how many rooms we want. Hehe. Abit shock for others because we’re very chill right now. However we do aim to get a house in 2 years or so. We’re still finding our own stability, financially and mentally first. We dont want to get a house and half way of deciding realises we’re out of budget. And as far as possible, we dont want to get help from others (not being selfish, more like protective of our little 2-pax fam).
My parents have been really kind to not really ask us to move out or any plans for a house. Because if we leave, there’ll be one room empty and i dont think they’ll like that either. But of course we’re not going to take advantage of being under my family’s roof, we too want our own house. Privacy has been a little to no issue because most of the time my family members are out early and back late, so we can really do anything we want,
Transitioning is hard and im going back to school now. So its full-time work, part-time studies, part-time secret project, full-time wife with a little social life.
But, we do actually have areas we would like to explore and me, being a huge “city” girl does not want to go out of Tampines but if i have to, I have to kan. We are looking for a resale house, abit risky for a newly weds, but we will one day meet up with an agent to talk about it. Im not entirely sure if im going to stay here (my work place) long enough because its like giving me no career progession (???) but im praying tho. A start up company is never easy, really really really testing my patience. Hahaha. But I mean, Im here right where I am for a reason. So im just going to go with the flow.
If its meant to be, it will be
- Are you planning to have a baby?
Duh, of course.
My aunties have already started the “da ade baby belum” questions but in a more subtle way, which usually i smile and be like, “Sihat wal’afiat sesangat” and “Doakan la” Understood the pressure but even my mum asked me to wait first. We do plan to have one soon. Not sooo soon but maybe in two years or so. I do want to spend more time with Husbi, just the two of us first. But if along the way, Allah decided to give us a baby, we’ll be happy to take it. We’re not tracking my ovulation period/safe period anyway. So no planning at all. If it happens, it happens.
However, we would like to get a house first before a baby. Both will definitely take a huge toll on our pocket if both comes at the same time. I really do admire those mummies who just got a house and having a baby at the same time. I dont know how you guys do it, please teach me haha.
I guess having stability is our most important thing to have. Without stability, we’ll wreck and i definitely do not want that. We’re taking things as it is and at the same time praying that Allah gives us what’s best for us.
I do rub my tummy and pray that Allah gives me a child when He feels im ready because im not. But if Allah say yes, yes it is.